Essence of Family, Marriage and Children –Significance from Ancient Scriptures View with respect to Modern living

Eeshwara made every husband one with his wife? In body and spirit, they are the same. So what does he want? Godly children from your union, so that manifestation and evolution continues………….

Every house can be a temple, when the pure bliss of marriage is blessed with incredible joy of a happy marriage blessed with adoring, appreciative kids raising on their way towards who easily transition from childhood into mature adults is a goal of most people. This concept is well established across Asian, Middle Eastern, Western cultures and reflects universally; this wish seems to be deeply rooted in our minds and also within our genetic composition.

Lately, this model has been changing. Some of them are having children apart from their marriage, and some are considering same gender relationships. However, it looks like everyone wants to have the joy of family. Even many of those who deviate from tradition still want their relationships to be called “marriages.”

It is contradictory though that the “social experimenters” want the language and bounties of traditional marriage but don’t wish to follow the traditional culture of Marriage? Why is it that we human beings are so attracted to the terms called marriage and family?

Most of the complainers of marriage are stuck in it with inner feelings of detest on their partner and keep the marriage going more for the social pressure or family respect or the sake of children, but the core of bond that keeps the wife and husband is waning away in this modern times and fastly catching up to be a comfort arrangement set up with commercial ideologies.

Is it the lack of actual education about the concepts of marriage? What is marriage? Why marriage? What are children? Why children? Effects of modern married families on children? What is its impact on the society? What will society of tomorrow look like with children produced from bad marriages?

The effort on this blog is to educate ourselves and understand it from the deeper core by first understanding the concept of marriage from the ancient Hindu scriptural point of view , purpose of it, the way it gets done, what are we actually promising to each other on the day of the marriage and how are we forgetting them so quickly ??

Can we learn something about Rama and Sita from Ramayana and what is it teaching us about the wedding, Marriage Rituals, and their meaning, their importance and explanation behind all of these?

Most of us who got married were so caught up in catching up with friends, Photo Shoots, Video fancies, family, and relatives. So hardly might have understood these rituals, mantras that bride/ groom are asked to recite. Sometimes the pandits are not sure of them too. So what does a Hindu marriage mean? How can they help into our lives? What’s involved, why do we go through all that ceremony, and why there is no concept of divorce in Hindu marriage?

Concept of Marriage – The Oneness of Purusha + Prakruthi.

The term ‘vivaha’ means ‘vishesena vahati iti vivaha:’ Vivaha is that which gives exclusive rights.What are those special rights? They are about the rights that the man can do only as a married one, particularly all Yajnas, which he cannot do as a Brahmachari without his patni or wife.

It is the completion of a union of Purusha and Prakriti.

Purusha is ‘puryam shete iti: Purusha:’ -the one who is resting in the house.The root words are ‘puh’ or ‘pura’ which means city, abode, dwelling.

The body is the city (Bhagavad Gita 5-13) with 9 openings. Since he resides in this city of 9 doors, he is called Purusha.

The female gender for Purusha is Prakruthi (Pra-kara(s), Kr-kara(the) and athi-kara(ree) combination indicating Sattvic ,Rajasic and Tamasic States of Mind , the triple nature of the mind manifested across the universe.

Purusha as the indweller and Prakruthi with 3 gunas; make complete the Purusha + Prakruthi combination.

This concept is the basic idea of the union of Man and Woman in Marriage. The man and the woman in Union perform the Gra hast ashrama duties as one, with the man as the prime base and the woman as the driver or thinker.

Example: To put this in an simple example: Take the case of a car, the car by itself is not called the car without its power to ride on the road, engine, brakes and ability of that thermal energy from the gas converting to the electrical energy and then converting to mechanical and kinetic energy that is then pushing the car forward.

So car has 2 components, they are:

Body of the car + power that drives it = THE CAR

(Purusha)           + (Prakruthi)   = Samsara (The World)

Can you imagine a situation of a car without the body but just has the power or car with body but no power???

Who and What is The Bride Groom (MAN)?

The father of the bride cleanses and prays at the feet of the bridegroom during the marriage process saying the following:

“Namostu anantaya sahasramurtaye Sahasrapadakshi shira uru bahave sahasranamne purushaya shashvate sahasrakoti yuga dharine namah”

I surrender to him, one who has no end, One who has thousand forms, having thousand heads, one who has thousand rays originating from him, he exists eternally, he has been there.

The bridegroom is none other than Mahavishnu, bodily present as a person here; I am washing his feet. Sahasramurtaye, the one who has thousand forms. In Sanskrit, One thousand is meant to represent infinity of experiences in these three states of our being. The word thousand is used in a modified sense than we typically perceive. The three zeros are the three illusions of our waking state, dreaming state and sleeping state. But in reality, the one is you; you are experiencing all these three states. So you see, you are not seeing the bridegroom as an individual. You are considering him as a manifestation of Maha Vishnu directly. So it is to him the Kanya, the bride is being offered.

Who and What is the Bride?

The wealth of the Lord is Maha Laksmi. All the wealth, enjoyment, riches, experiences, of the world, are the Maha Laksmi swarupa.

Kanyam kanaka sampannam sakala abharanih yutam.

This bride is presented with the wealth of the world unto the God who owns it.

Who is this patni? ———-“patyAm vrathE thishtathi iti patni” (one who stands by her pati in all his actions.

Sequential Steps of Marriage:

  1. Nandi – To get started
  2. Nischitartha – establishing the trust
  3. Ankurarpana – creation of the connection by lighting the yajna fire
  4. Lajjna Homam – Yajna fire, Offering to Eeshwara.
  5. Snathakam – thread ceremony for the Groom before the wedding.
  6. Upanayanam- thread ceremony where the groom wears a silver thread or Yajñopavītam on his body.
  7. kasi Yathra – the ambivalent journey of the groom to kasi for the sannyasa and is brought back by the parents of the bride for the marriage.
  8. Kanya Danam: offering of the girl for the marriage.
  9. Pani Grahanam: bride and groom’ can and must touch and hold each other’s hand only and nobody else’s.

10: Saptha Padi: Walking Together for 7 steps

11: Mangalasutra Dhara/Vikshanam – tying the knot of the marriage.

  1. Talambralu- For the bride and the groom to bring them nearer in psychological and mental paths.
  2. Arundhati Darshanam
  3. Grihapravesam – Taking the bride to the in-law’s house
  4. Appaginthalu – handing over the daughter to the groom
  5. Dhruva Darshanam
  6. Shobanamu
  7. Garbhadanam – creation of the fetus.

COMING UP NEXT: In Depth look into each of this Rituals and its significance

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